I’ve been thinking a lot recently about my varied roles; partner, friend, creative, blogger, mediator, psychologist, housekeeper, educator, healer, mother…
Mother?! Holy crap! That’s like the most important job there is!
I’ve been thinking a lot about ‘motherhood’ and parenting and the hard work of raising balanced, emotionally secure humans.
What’s right and what’s wrong? What do I believe is best? Where do I fit most comfortably on the parenting style continuum? How do I want my children to see me? What do I want them to learn about being human from me?
Because I have to be that person.
Kids have state-of-the-art bullshit detectors, leaving no real choice but to get zen… fast.
I like to think of this whole motherhood gig like this…
I am their tour guide to this experience festival we call life. It’s my job to let them explore while offering relevant information all while keeping them safe and without putting too much of a damper on their good time.
I’m not perfect.
I get fed up, I fall into ruts and take it all for granted… I have my impatient moments (sometimes days), and I forget that they’re not mine to control. I forget that my place as mother is to stand by them, to hold their hands until they’re feeling steady enough to let go.
That can be literal, as T hangs on tightly to my fingers, slowly learning to balance, each step on his shaky new legs a great victory.
It can be metaphorical, as I do my best to support the biggest of our littles, offering an ear and an open heart as she begins her journey through the challenging terrain of the tween and teen years.
I read this quote, almost a decade ago, in Mothering Magazine…
“Remember, you are not managing an inconvenience. You are raising a human being.”
And all these years it’s stuck with me, the most beautiful mantra that has lead to exponential personal growth.
So here I am, with a decade of trying to be a better person and a better parent under my belt, still working through my shit.
I am sharing all this with you, hoping it might aid you through your own thought processes as you trudge through all the outdated versions of yourself on your way to a future filled with more brightness, more joy, more love.
As always, much luck to you, my fellow earthling, as we embark on this journey… this beautiful act of co-creation.
As together we hurtle through space, struggling and smiling and singing and dancing our way along… all the while giving thanks to the stars that we’ve been entrusted with this sacred task we call motherhood.